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Asked 12/6/2011

Help someone I need advice..Please:/

Okay me and my ex boyfriend knew each other for about a year, and dated for about 8 months..We were in a long distance relationship,which was kinda hard but we made it work. i visited him and things were great Well recently I started feeling as if he were taking advantage of me, like if he knew i was always gonna be around so he could treat me however. I was getting fed up with it and i broke up with him. I really just wanted him to realize what was going on and just do better.We didnt talk for like a week after and he deleted me and blocked me from facebook lol. I never told him i wanted him back, he called me and told me he missed me and loved me and realize he was taking the relationship for granted. The next morning i found out he had a new gf and he was saying he loved her and she was his everything(They've never met in person and haveonly been dating for a couple weeks and she lives in a different state). He told me he was trying too make me jealous and he didnt even want her.I didnt Care At that point i didnt even want him any more. The nxt day i told him too send my things i had left at his house back too me. Ofcourse this ment he would probably never see me again. He got mad and wouldnt sent it. He called me a couple weeks later, Acting as if we were regualar again. He told me he was mad at me because i didnt love him anymore. I need help on what i should do. Should I go Back? should i move on? I still love him. i just dont wanna ever be hurt, im stuck...please h

 
 
 
 
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Answer 1/10 - Submitted 12/7/2011

No. I would not go back. Move on. Block him from Facebook and your phone and move on with your life. You would be setting yourself up for more heartbreak. When you love someone, you don't lie. You don't cheat. You don't have another girlfriend on the side. I hope the best for you. Don't let some guy bring you down and treat you that way.

Good Luck.

 
 

Answer 2/10 - Submitted 12/8/2011

For me, reading your story, that's a big NO NO! In the first place, when you broke up with him, the first thing he must did is to beg you and ask you to give him another chance. But what did he do? He looked for another one and made you jealous. That's truly wrong. When you love somebody, even if it's too hard to please him/her back, you won't lose hope and will never surrender until you and him/her be good again and you'll tell her/him that you're ready to change yourself for better.

You have to move on. Don't block him in your FB account. Show him that you're okay and much better than before you're with him. With that, he'll realize everything he lost when you're gone in his arms. I know it's hard to move on, but that's the right thing to do so you wouldn't get hurt anymore. For sure, there's someone better than him, that is very right for your love.

 
 

Answer 3/10 - Submitted 12/9/2011

Move on girl! Anyone who truly cared about you wouldn't treat you in this way, and you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about you right? I've learned the hard way a number of times that it almost never works when you get back together.

 
 

Answer 4/10 - Submitted 12/9/2011

This is called game playing and I think you know it but don't want to accept it. It's a good feeling to be wanted but what about how it feels when you're up one day and down the next? This is probably what your life will be like as long as you stay with him.

Do your self a big favor and just simply and completely remove him from your life now. Look for a real man who is not a game player. Take him off your friend list. Don't answer his phone calls. Cut him totally out of your life. If your stuff that he has isn't worth a lot, like a couple of outfits or little things, forget about it.

I hope you have the courage to stand up for yourself and that you find love and happiness.

 
 

Answer 5/10 - Submitted 12/10/2011

Repeat after me - "I DESERVE BETTER!" Keep repeating that, over and over again, until it sinks into your brain. This guy is a dead end and will only make you feel worse and worse. Move on with your life - try someone closer this time, they are easier to hug and kiss and experience life with. Remove him from your Facebook list, block his number and send his letters back "return to sender". And keep telling yourself, "I DESERVE BETTER!" Because you do.

 
 

Answer 6/10 - Submitted 12/10/2011

What stuff did you leave at his place? If it's just a change of clothes and a toothbrush, forget about it. If it's something of actual value that you truely need/want back, just make arrangements with him to go pick it up. Bring a friend to help, he'll be more likely to not harrass you over the break if there's a third person there.

Good luck.

 
 

Answer 7/10 - Submitted 1/9/2012

I knew you still love him and you don't forget him easy but you must looking forward to your happiness if you happy that he had you in your side then go on as long as you happy. Do you happy if he do it again and again, i think no.You will be the one to feel of what your heart tells. Sometimes we use our mind to think what is good for the heart..

 
 

Answer 8/10 - Submitted 1/9/2012

Forget him and forget the items at his place unless you've left something of extraordinary actual or sentimental value. Just realize that you've managed without them this long. Block or delete him where you can; ignore him where you can't.

Prolong the breakup by haggling over possessions and it appears you are just playing hard to get and not serious about getting him out of your life at all. As long as you continue to communicate with him, regardless of the reason, he will think he has a chance.

The guy's a cad playing adolescent 'I'm going to make you jealous and we'll see who's sorry' games. Learn from the experience and move on. You don't deserve the anguish.

 
 

Answer 9/10 - Submitted 1/18/2012

Of course move on...and get the book...Act like a lady, think like a man....by Steve Harvey. That book lets you know exactly what a man is thinking, when he does things like this to you. You need to set the bar higher, and look for another man, who will appreciate the time you put into the relationship.

Good luck!

 
 

Answer 10/10 - Submitted 1/20/2012

Do NOT go back to him. He is messing with you, manipulating you. Obviously he has self esteem issues and tries to correct it by fiddling with your mind. This only hurts you, so if you have any self respect, forget about whatever crap of yours he has and just stop responding to his immature games. This means that you don't answer his calls or texts or emails to explain that you plan to not respond to his antics, because guess what! That's you responding to his antics, exactly what he wants. Just stop. Delete his number from your phone, delete his email address. You will look back on this in 5 years with wonderment at how you wasted so much time and energy involved in this miserable game.

It will be hard not talking to him at first, but after 2 weeks you will be interested in new things/people and it will get easier and easier to proceed with a full life and engage with people who are honest and sincere and truly find you interesting and unique.

 
 
 
 
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